Marriage of the Bulang

After 15 or 16 years after age come the young people Bulang realizes the rite of the ripeness, called Poke between those of Menghai. The young people, on having returned from the temple, begins studying to touch the musical instruments, especially the sanxiang and the tanqing and singing love songs. Together they visit the girls of the same age in his houses. The girls go away tiñendo the teeth with the embers of a wood from the Holiday of Closing the Doors to the Holiday of Opening the Doors, the boys have already done it in the temple. When the young people has dyed teeth it is considered that they can already speak about love.

Generally the girls to the evening are embroidering, when the boys are heard that 4 persons come with his music, in small groups, generally from 3 ó, although sometimes they come to the 10. They greet the parents, who give them the welcome, contentments from which his daughter has so many claimants, and sit down to the fire to chat with them, singing and touching the instruments. When it seems that the girl begins getting on better with one of them, they begin a sung dialogue, by means of which different questions are risen. Others, which see that they they do not pay attention, are getting bored, and are going away to other houses, until only it remains a couple singing and chatting to the fire.

Later they will arrange to meet to be in the forest or the mountain. When they have a commitment, the girl announces it with flowers of osmantos target in his head. If they decide to marry already he is the boy the one that sends emissaries of his part, that several times are pushed back by the parents of the fiancée, to demonstrate that his daughter must be well treated. Finally they accept them.

Then they begin living together, and in the course of one year they must celebrate the wedding. It is necessary to choose a propitious day, which they are usually in the month 4, 6 or 8 of the calendar dai. Before marrying, tobacco is given to the chief of the village communicating to him this matter, and inviting all to eat meat, since on the following day there sacrifices himself a pig to which they all are invited, then the chiefs are invited to the house of the parents, and gifts take to the temple Buddhist. The girl says goodbye of his previous, friendly fiancés and partners of games.

After the wedding, for 3 years the husband is still employed at his house and is going to sleep in the night with his wife, who keeps on living with his parents. And then, if everything is fine, they do a new wedding, and the husband returns to his house with the wife, and the children that it had had during these 3 years. But if they see that it is not harmonious, they can separate.

In the second wedding it takes the fiancée to house of the fiancé, who since then belongs to the family of this one. Spent 3 years, the couple can form a family for herself, himself.

They marry the people out of the clan. One with one. With freedom of marriage and of divorce. The divorce can be established in any phase of the matrimonial process. It usually to a pig and invite struggle the children of the village, who then cover the streets shouting: "Fulanito and menganita they have got divorced."

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